|Now at 8 years old.|
"Tell me more," I said, " but only if you want to." ….putting the ball in her court. (Never, ever force with adopted kids who have been through some kind of trauma. Never.)
"I remember the orphanage. I remember Mom. I remember being cold (like now), and crying. I remember what it looked like." Mei Mei related.
"Do you remember what you were doing?" I responded.
"I was lying there. I was crying because I was sick. I was really sick, Mom."
"Do you remember the Nannies helping you? Do you remember any people?" I hopefully said.
"No, that's it. That's all. I just remember being really cold, sick and lying there crying.
. That's it." …..And then Mei Mei changed the subject. Discussion over.
Mei Mei was just shy of 11 months when we got her. This is the very first thing she has ever pieced together…..7 years later. Do I believe her? Of course…..without abandon. She's not the type of kid to make things up. She's very closed with deep emotions. She's never wanted to see pictures, know about where she came from. She's always just wanted to be one of us.
But now….now……she's healing. Sometimes it takes a while. You have to let them do it on their own terms. Consider me humbled.